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The Influence Of 1 Grandparent In Gender Identity


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Can the influence of 1 grandparent in gender identity help your grandchild understand a confusing topic?

Why should grandparents influence gender identity in grandchildren? Can the presence of the grandparent’s help reduce confusion? As our grandchildren grow up, many of them face an identity crisis. The problem is that at the age of 12-14, they look at other teens to determine right or wrong for themselves. Consequently, and far too often the need to belong leads to problems.

Grandparents can have a big impact on their grandchild if they have a solid relationship. What is a solid relationship? A solid relationship is one that allows guiltless conversation. That means you grandchild can talk to you without being afraid to talk. Why a solid relationship? The solid relationship makes ‘teen talks’ easier for both of you.

Talking to Your Teen is Vital

Talking to your teen is important. Early talks before they start experimenting are the most important. Teen talks could include topics about:

  • gender identity
  • having both male and female organs
  • cisgender vs transgender
  • homosexuality
  • biological sex
  • heterosexual 

The most important thing is to have the talk.  During the talk make your grandchild feel comfortable about talking to you. I had many discussions with my nieces and daughter. I found that the best way to hold the conversation was to let them direct the conversation. 

I let them ask whatever questions they wanted to ask. I used official names to reduce awkwardness. As parents, now grandparents, we know biological acceptance is important. We also know that children will find someone to talk to about sex and sexual identity. The bottom line is that if they are not comfortable talking to you, there will be no conversation.

Is the five sex theory creating a world of confusion

The world seems to be a ball of confusion over sexual identity. Society used to write and talk about nature vs nurture. Some believed that nurturing a child with the wrong influence created unnatural behaviors. According to the Bible, sexual identity is simple. In addition, according to medical science, sexual identity is simple. But, the Five Sex Theory Method of Sexually creates confusion.  Before, the five sex method, you were either male or female.

A few years ago, sexual identity moved to include homosexual. But now teens have to choose between five theories of sexual gender. Acceptance is important for a teenager. Grandparent influence should reduce the stress associated with sexual identity and acceptance. Why, because your grand children should always know that you love them.

Consequently, the five sex theory came about Anne Stirling. Stirling, was a university professor at the time of her writing. The theory has grown slowly over the past few years. You can read more about the theory for yourself by clicking the five sexes theory.

Biological acceptance vs gender identity

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As a grandparent it is wise to learn these terms. Consequently, knowing what these five new sexes is all about will help you and your grandchild. Help with what you may think? It will help you explain what biological sex means. It will help them not feel awkward. It will help you keep things simple. If one of the young-uns ask, you can simply say “look at your” there is your answer.

Even more so, keeping the conversation light will help easy their fears. It may even dry some tears. As a grandparent removing the confusion, and helping them understand their biological sex, is perfectly acceptable. Another critical conversation is from the new 5-sexes. The new sex “cisgender” title has grown a great deal in the past few years.

The problem with title of “cisgender” is that it creates confusion in some teens. According to Merriam-webster dictionary, the “gender identity corresponds with the sex…identified at birth.” However, we often believe a medical definition, over a dictionary when related to a medical situation. I am not sure, that the medical information in this case is correct. 

confusion creates more confusion

The confusion comes from a definition stated in healthline.com. The article states “if you were born with a penis and identify as a man, you’re a cisgender man. Similarly, if you were born with a vagina and identify as a woman, you’re a cisgender woman.” Whenever and where ever gender is involved, the guidance of a wise person is necessary.

It may seem like this is “nitpicking” until you have to explain it to your grandchild. Even more so, this article is written to inform parents and grandparent of this new sex gender. You can investigate it more with health-line.  

Go ahead, ask yourself. Should grandparents influence gender identity in grandchildren? Should grandparents refuse to let their legacy become lost and confused? Should they help them understand before they make a life decision? If you said yes, then welcome to being a caring grandparent.

Leaning to listen is the best thing you can do. Why, because the child trusted you enough to come to you. Therefore, welcome to helping them gain confidence. Consequently, your grandchild will need your help to stand against the gender police.

Standing Against the gender police

Gender policing occurs when someone does not fit the usual social mold. Evidently, gender policing is used against both males and females. It is also a form of discrimination. Gender policing happens most often when a person’s career does not support social norms. Reports show that female officers are overlooked for promotions more often than male officers because of their gender.

Conclusion

In conclusion, we discussed the importance of grandparent influence in gender identity for their grandchildren. I believe grandparents should influence their grandchildren. Next, we discussed a few ways for grandparents to have a teen talks with their adolescent and teenage grandchild. My experience with the teen talks is that it gives the child or teen a voice. Your ability listen, gives them confidence. 

We move forward from teen talks into the reason for the confusion. After that we spoke about biological sex and gender identity roles. Finally, we concluded with gender policing, and where and when you may see it most.  Finally, teaching your grandchild is important.  Check here for some other subjects that we use to teach our grandchild about life.

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